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A Letter from Gil & Mary

Thanks for considering us in your adoption journey. We’ve spent our 12 years of marriage in a loving home where we welcome each day with a hug, a kiss, and a laugh. Bringing our first child home will be our greatest joy.

Our fertility struggles have strengthened our bond and taught us that raising a child goes beyond genes – it’s developing a loving bond and supporting and encouraging a child through both joyous and tough times.

We know adoption is meant for us. Gil was adopted, and Mary has an adopted sister, and we trust God has led our hearts back to this path. Our hearts are open and ready to love and nurture as first-time parents.

Our Story

It all began at a Christmas party. We sang carols, talked for hours, and have been inseparable ever since.

We’re both home chefs and voracious readers who love learning, creative projects and being silly at times. It’s a blessing to balance our strengths and bring out the best in each other. Gil is the dreamer, Mary is the innovator, and together we’re a wonderful team. As parents, Gil will help your child dream big, and Mary will help make that dream happen.

Our relationship is built on trust, mutual support, and courage. We will bring the same dynamic to parenting, giving your child freedom to be themselves and the courage to embrace life’s opportunities.

Meet Gil

Gil is truly my shining star that lights up my life. He knows life is precious and tries to live life to the fullest. He’s the backbone of our family and I feel lucky to be married to my best friend.

Gil loves archaeology, biking, DIY projects, and exploring nature. I can see him and your child planning adventurous expeditions to fun places, collecting backyard treasures, riding bikes, and making creative pancakes together.

People are naturally drawn to Gil’s positive vibes, humor, and charisma. As a social worker, he knows when folks need laughter and when they need support and is empathetic without making light of things. He will be your child’s best advocate and their cheerleader when they need it most.

I know Gil will be a wonderful father because of these remarkable qualities, and of course, his pancake skills!

Meet Mary

Mary is my true north and my home. She is curious, tenacious, and stays calm and patient in difficult situations.

A grant writer and budget analyst by profession, Mary’s a natural problem-solver, diving headfirst into challenges rather than stepping back. She can figure out anything, from knitting and baking techniques to ukulele chords to data science.

Mary is excited to share her passion for reading with your child. She looks forward to reading bedtime stories, teaching your child to swim and fish, cooking delicious meals with ingredients from our garden, and creating arts and crafts with them. Mary’s grit, patience, rationality, and willingness to help turn dreams into reality make her so incredibly special, and I know she will be an excellent mother.

Our Wisconsin Home

We live in a quiet, safe, and diverse neighborhood whose families look out for each other. Our 3-bedroom house is large enough for children to grow up comfortably. Its lush backyard is home to flowers, organic vegetables, and a gate that opens to a playground.

Gil has belonged to the community since he was a teen. He knows the local landmarks as well as the neighbors. We are a short distance from gorgeous parks and lakes, culture and arts, child-friendly events, and—most importantly—outstanding healthcare and schools.

Your child will have lots of fun places to walk and play while feeling safe. On our daily walks, we see kids playing outside and parents pushing strollers or walking kids to school. Saturdays, we walk or bike to the library or enjoy the area’s natural beauty. During winter, we build snowmen or watch the snowfall as we snuggle on our sofa.

Our Loved Ones

Our thoughtful, strong network of family and friends are generous with their time, love, and attention.

Both of our large, supportive families cherish our time together. At family gatherings, we sing, dance, and swap recipes, so there’s never a dull moment. Gil’s cheesecake and Mary’s Thanksgiving turkey are always a hit!

Your child will have an enormous support system that includes other adoptees. We’re also incredibly lucky to have friends who feel like family—a few have also adopted children who look forward to playdates.

We look forward to celebrating precious milestones and holidays with your child, creating new traditions together as a family.

Our Promise

We sprinkle our marriage with strength, resilience, joy, and love. We’ll share these with your child.

We promise to love them wholeheartedly, treasure each moment, and guide them toward all the wonders in life. We will cultivate curiosity and creativity and support them in reaching for their dreams and meeting educational goals. We will teach your child about their cultural heritage and show them the world through education, travel, art, and music.

Your child will know their adoption story and how it began with your act of love. We’d love to hear your hopes and dreams for you and your child.
If you would like to learn more about us, please call or text Lifetime at 1.800.923.6784.

Learn More About Gil & Mary

  Gil Mary
Our EducationMS in social workBA in creative writing & psychology
Our ProfessionsSocial workerGrant writer / budget analyst
Stay-At-HomeNoWorks from home
Our Racial BackgroundCaucasianCaucasian
Some of Gil & Mary's Favorites
Place to Take a ChildNational parks and the beachMuseums and zoos
HobbiesCooking, house projects, kayaking, national parks, zentangle, soccerKnitting, baking, swimming, dancing, writing poetry, gardening, calligraphy
Seasonal ActivityKayaking, kite flying, and soccer in the summerHarvesting autumn veggies
Children’s BookTreasure IslandWinnie the Pooh
Ice Cream FlavorVanilla with blueberriesPeanut Butter Chocolate
QuoteJust when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.
My Perfect DaySitting on the deck reading a good book and drinking chai latteSleep in, knit or crochet, then snuggle on the sofa with a good book
More About Our Family
We live in the state of…

Wisconsin—home of the Green Bay Packers, Georgia O’Keeffe, and Laura Ingalls Wilder! Wisconsin is known for its cheese, cranberries, and apple orchards (but most people don’t know that ice cream sundaes were invented here!) With its Midwest hospitality and its scenic drives to watch the changing of the leaves, we are proud to call Wisconsin home!

Stable Careers

We are fortunate to have stable, successful careers with employers that are very supportive of working parents. As a social worker, Gil helps people in crisis sort out their setbacks. He is responsible and a great provider who works hard to help others in the community and always puts our family first. Mary blends her love of science and the arts as a grant writer and budget analyst. She finds her work very rewarding because of the impact it has on the health of so many children and families. At lunchtime, Gil stops at home for a dose of home cooking. Mary works from home—which is a huge plus!—it allows flexibility for childcare and family time, plus time to whip up homemade bread and muffins in our old oven.

Holidays, Faith, and Traditions

We cherish the holiday spirit, whether with friends and family or just us. Maybe it’s cheesy, but we believe in the miracle of Christmas, and we hope to create new holiday traditions with your child. In the summer we like to spend time at the lake or travel to new places and learn about different cultures. In the winter, we play in the snow, drink hot cocoa, play board games and share silly ghost stories. We’d like to invite a new tradition into our life: every night as your child goes to bed, we’ll share what we’re thankful for, beginning with you for giving birth to this bundle of joy and giving us the opportunity to experience the miracle of adoption.

7 Things We Look Forward to Sharing With Your Child

1. Growing veggies our garden and transforming them into healthy, delicious meals
2. Traveling as a family to experience different foods, cultures, and adventures together
3. Gathering with family and friends for birthday parties, holidays, and celebrations
4. Snuggling up to read stories at bedtime or anytime
5. Exploring nature and playing at the park
6. Singing, dancing, and playing music as we go about our days
7. Celebrating their story and finding out what they love and what makes them unique

We Prefer a Child Who Is...
Age of Child

Newborn to 7 years old.


Absolutely, we would love to adopt twins!


We'd be happy to adopt a child of any gender.

Sibling Group


In Closing

Once again, thank you for taking the time to learn about who we are and how your child will be loved and welcomed into our lives. We know this is a big decision and we hope you will find peace in whatever you decide for yourself and your child. We appreciate you considering us to be part of your journey.

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